Dear Teens, 

There are some things I want you to know before you decide to say yes to any romantic relationship. I can imagine the look on your faces as you all hang around with your friends and talk about how valentine is coming. 

 I remember the excitement of having a Val some years back. The fulfillment of getting a new white snicker and a pair of blue trousers to go with it. I cannot wait to give her a well-wrapped gift and a well-selected card that expressed what I feel for my hard-to-get Val when I was your age! It was almost too much for my body and soul to handle. 

The rush made it so I couldn’t eat. I wanted to do everything right for the one I had my eye on at the moment, so much so, that it was probably painful to watch. So, you cannot tell me that I don’t know what the feeling is like. I’m going down memory lane with you because I know how it feels for someone to be in the middle of his/her teenage-ness.

 The phase of life when young love comes out of nowhere and does several damages on one’s heart and head, and can steal ones away from oneself. Yes, love knows no age. It looks and feels different each time one falls. But maturity helps one to know the complexities that come with a romantic relationship. Before you go into it, you must be ready emotionally to learn from it through joy and pain.


 I hate to break it to you that teenage is never the best time to make your life complex with a romantic relationship. Because you will all feel the shooting, pounding hurt of heartbreak. These inevitable occurrences could mar your life forever. Romantic love takes over one’s being! This distraction has damaged much more beautiful destines than you can imagine. Teenage pregnancies cases are countless. STD is everywhere now and it does show in the face. The loss of one’s life focus is one of the damaging effects of being involved in a romantic relationship at a teenage.

 I hope you listen to these eight pieces of advice about love and you will come to thank me years to come.

 a. Sexual purity is highly profitable.

 b. Don’t lose yourself to peer pressure.

 c. Don’t try to fit into any friendship that is contrary to your value and conviction.

d. Set the boundary in any relationship you are in.

 e. Don’t be afraid to speak up when someone is trying to cross the boundary you set for yourself.

 f. Don’t let anyone make you feel inferior because of what they think you need and you don’t have.

 g. Maturity (spirit, soul, and body) should come before a romantic relationship.

 One thing I have come to know during my years on earth is that most teens’ romantic relationships might not last. But most people got their lives to mess up as teens. So many stories and experiences that the people involved were not proud of.

 An experience they say is the best teacher, but I must tell you it could come with price and scars that could be permanent. So why do you have to make all the mistakes by yourself or have to learn from your costly experience while you could simply learn other people’s experiences? Valentine’s day is just like every other 365 days in a year. It has 24 hours with the same color of the sky, one sun, and the same moon.

 Why on earth will someone be thinking of doing silly things that could affect his /her future negatively that day in the name of  St. Valentine.